‘’My righteousness draws near speedily my salvation is on the way &
my
ARM will bring justice to the nations’’ 
(Isaiah 51:5)

Christian Resolve & Reconciliation

mediation - insights

What is Mediation?

Mediation is a relatively informal and voluntary process in which mediators facilitate communication and negotiation in order to help the parties reach their own agreement. Mediators are as concerned with reconciling the parties by helping them address personal and relational issues as with helping them to settle their substantive differences.

The mediator(s) will offer initial advice and then ask each party for a short written summary of their position. He or she will then usually bring the parties together at a private and informal meeting, listen to what they have to say, refer them to biblical principles where appropriate, help them to consider their own responsibilities as well as their rights and encourage them to seek a just solution. If the parties do not reach an agreement on their own, they may ask the mediator(s) to issue an advisory opinion which is not legally binding but is often accepted by both sides.

Agreements reached through mediation are written down and become legally binding agreements. If mediation is unsuccessful, the parties may decide to terminate the process or they may agree to submit unresolved issues to arbitration.

 What is mediation/arbitration?

Mediation/arbitration is a process whereby the parties enter into an agreement at the outset that if mediation is unsuccessful, they will submit any unresolved issues to arbitration.

How does Christian mediation differ from other types of mediation?

All mediators aim to assist those in conflict to reach a voluntary settlement. However, Christian mediators also seek to identify the underlying causes of a dispute and assist individuals to examine their motives, attitudes and actions. By evaluating these against the principles recorded in the Bible it is possible to lead people to life-changing solutions.  

Can Resolve help me to settle a dispute privately and before any mediation process starts?

YES.  Resolve can provide you with advice on ways to explore a settlement in private talks with the other party. The Bible teaches that it is only after private efforts have been exhausted that you should consider seeking the assistance of others in resolving a dispute. (See Matthew 18:15-16.)

Doesn’t mediation always result in a compromise?

NO. Although some disputes are properly resolved through compromise, mediators should not encourage the parties to “split the difference” merely to get a matter settled. Christian mediators take justice seriously and they will do all they can to help people live up to their responsibilities, even when doing so may be unpleasant and costly.

What principles will I be expected to follow
during Christian mediation?

Resolve promotes traditional Judaeo-Christian values & principles
which are for the most part central to our common law.
These values & principles promote healthy relationships
& the proper functioning of society.


If you refer a case to Resolve you will be encouraged to follow the rules that God has given to govern relations between all people:
  • Be honest:   
    Therefore, each of you must put off falsehood and speak truthfully to his neighbour (Eph. 4:25).
  • Do what is just and merciful:   
    And what does the Lord require of you? To act justly, and to love mercy, and to walk humbly with your God (Micah 6:8).
  • Accept responsibility for your actions and admit your wrongs: 
    First take the plank out of your own eye, and then you will see clearly enough to remove the speck from your brother’s eye (Matt. 7:5).
  • Keep your word: 
    Simply let your “yes” be “yes,” and your “no” be “no” (Matt. 5:37).
  • Be concerned about the interests of others: 
    Each of you should look not only to your own interests, but also to the interests of others (Phil. 2:4).
  • Listen carefully to what others say
    He who answers before listening, that is his folly & his shame
    (Prov. 18:13).
  • Overlook minor offences
    A man’s wisdom gives him patience; it is to his glory to overlook an offence (Prov. 19:11).
  • Confront others constructively: 
    Do not let any unwholesome talk come out of your mouths, but only what is helpful for building others up according to their needs, that it may benefit those who listen (Eph. 4:29).
  • Be open to forgiveness and reconciliation
    Be kind and compassionate to one another, forgiving each other, just as in Christ God forgave you (Eph. 4:32). 
  • Change harmful attitudes and behaviour: 
    He who conceals his sins does not prosper, but whoever confesses and renounces them finds mercy (Prov. 28:13).
  • Make restitution for any damage you have caused: 
    If a man uncovers a pit or digs one and fails to cover it and an ox or a donkey falls into it, the owner of the pit must pay for the loss
    (Ex. 21:33-34).

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So in everything, do to others what you would have them do to you, for this sums up the Law & the Prophets
Matt. 7:12